Photo by Montana Miller
The Silver Ring Thing merchandise emphasizes the message of sexual abstinence<\/figcaption><\/figure>\nThe following data represent a modest but illuminating survey of teenage folk meanings and interpretations of a symbol associated with an evangelical religious sponsor, Denny Pattyn and his organization. But as folklorist Diane Goldstein has pointed out, studies of folk religion have neglected “the ‘religious’ core of religious speech; the simple fact that such performances arise out of and constitute part of a discourse of faith, and as such are judged by fellow believers based on spiritual<\/em> rules and norms.” Many of the young people who contributed to this study are immersed in religious communities. With their families and friendship groups, they may share social structures deeply founded on religious belief. When they refer to a passage from the Bible or mention their relationship with Jesus, I may glimpse those foundations, but a comprehensive look at the religious social structure behind the Silver Ring Thing is beyond the scope of my study. I limit myself here to the scaffolding erected by these teens’ explanations of sex and the ring. Goldstein uses the term “scaffolding” to refer to the social milieu or folklife surrounding religious events – the practices and performances through which people express ideals and values. We can observe the form of the scaffolding without being certain how, or how well, it functions.<\/p>\nThrough the study of symbolic objects, imagery, rituals, and communicative forms, we document the elements of folk religion, defined in 1974 by folklorist Don Yoder as “those views and practices of religion that exist among the people apart from and alongside the strictly theological and liturgical forms of the official religion.” Yoder noted that comparative studies of religion had suffered from “the common failure to distinguish between philosophical religion and practical religion,” and he pointed out that the “folk” aspect of religion is disorganized and “exists in a complex society in relation to and in tension with the organized religion(s) of that society.”11<\/u> As Leonard Primiano and other folklorists went on to develop the concept of vernacular religion, the definition of what “folk” included was stretched; for example, institutions and official people also possess and express vernacular elements, asserted Primiano.12<\/u> Thus even the adult-generated Silver Ring Thing show, with its slogans, scripts, and constructions of right and wrong, can be seen as a vernacular creation in itself.<\/p>\n
Within the field of folklore studies, the notion of vernacular religion has proved useful for understanding a range of phenomena including Americans’ popular infatuation with angels and angel imagery, homosexual Roman Catholics, and online apocalyptic discourse.13<\/u> Scholars in fields other than folklore have explored the vast range of individual experiences within religious culture, as well; for example, the focus on lived religion and religious practices has created an important shift in religious history studies, exemplified in the work of authors including Robert Orsi, David Hall, and Leigh Eric Schmidt.14<\/u><\/p>\n
In another example of vernacular religion, anthropologist Ganamath Obeyesekere studied the symbolic locks of matted hair worn by Hindu-Buddhist religious ecstatics in Sri Lanka.15<\/u> In his 1981 book Medusa’s Hair, Obeyesekere emphasized “three interrelated problems: the origin and genesis of the symbol; its personal meaning for the individual or group; and the socio-cultural message it communicates to the group… In the case of matted hair the symbol is a public one, but it is recreated each time by individuals.”16<\/u><\/p>\n
Like a head of matted hair, a chastity ring is a symbol that publicly displays religious devotion. Yet, as Obeyesekere has illustrated, symbols are multivocal; even when they carry meanings that are culturally shared, they take on personal meanings as well, as individuals invest them with their own emotions and experiences. In light of this, I propose the term “vernacular abstinence” to conceptualize these diverse understandings and lived practices as teenagers (individually and in groups) interpret the moral codes of sexual behavior they receive through official, authoritative, and mass-media conduits. That is, vernacular abstinence stands in contrast to the official top-down notion of abstinence as an uncomplicated ideal. In speeches, slogans, and public policy, the word “abstinence” is rigid, inflexible – often phrased as “abstinence-only,” and wielded as the one reliable weapon against STDs and pregnancy. But in attempting to understand the vernacular expression of this concept, I am asking what counts as abstinent or non-abstinent when young people are turning the idea over in their minds, talking with their friends and lovers, or tossing in their beds.<\/p>\n
It is important to allow the individual voices of the teenagers wearing these rings to emerge, giving their personal translations of the common text they wear around their fingers. “What people believe and how they practice their religion in their everyday lives must be taken seriously,” Primiano reminds us; as he found with perceptions of angels, individuals’ interpretations are nuanced, sophisticated, and often eloquent.17<\/u> Having observed the Silver Ring Thing show and noted the wide range of apparent levels of enthusiasm in the audience of teenagers, I suspect that they are not all as swept up in the devotion as the promoters claim. However, it has not been practical for me to obtain informed consent and conduct on-the-spot interviews with the students at these events, as getting their parents’ consent would not be feasible, and the crowded, noisy, hyped-up event is not an ideal interview setting.<\/p>\n
Therefore, the research findings I present here are based on email interviews I have conducted with students over the age of 18 – now in college – who participated in the Silver Ring Thing program when they were in high school. That is, they attended the show, took the virginity pledge, and bought and wore the ring. Publicly, they still affiliate themselves with the idea of sexual abstinence – at least enough to have joined one of several groups on social networking sites such as Facebook that reference the Silver Ring Thing. But what can they tell us about their private and practical definitions of chastity, and what are their observations of their peers’ behavior?<\/p>\n
I sent emails or Facebook messages to about 100 Silver Ring Thing alumni, asking them for their consent to participate in my research, introducing myself and the purpose of my study: “I’m interested in learning about how teenagers interpret the values and rules the ring represents, after the staged performance is over. Would you be interested in sending me your opinion on this subject?” After explaining how confidentiality will be protected, I posed these questions:<\/p>\n
In your opinion, do people have differing perceptions regarding the ring’s power and meaning? That is, do you know of people who wore the ring but had differing definitions of what it means to be “abstinent,” or who sometimes took off the ring and behaved differently, or who wore the ring in order to present a chaste image even though in private they were sexually active?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Several dozen young people replied to my email questionnaire. There is little doubt that this sample is selective and skewed: My respondents likely constitute an enthusiastic subset from among the thousands of teenagers who have sat through the shrill spectacle and gone home wearing a ring. Not surprisingly, almost every response I have received includes a reiteration of the importance of having a relationship with Jesus Christ.<\/p>\n
Keeping in mind that the ring-bearers I am interviewing at least tacitly accept the program’s message, I believe that they can be keen observers of their peers regardless of their ideological bias. In fact, they may have more communications with their classmates than typical students, due to their motivation to influence others to join their faith. In emailing these students, I emphasized that I was interested in hearing their perceptions of the ways other teenagers defined appropriate sexual boundaries; I asked them no personal questions, and I asked them not to tell me names or identifying details about other people. Their responses to my questions are intriguing.<\/p>\n
Vernacular Abstinence as Explained by Teenagers<\/strong><\/h3>\nSeveral key themes stood out: the ring as a tool or strategy used by parents; the ring as a means of displaying or “showing off” values; the ring as a “second chance,” to make a fresh start after a mistake; the ring as a token of an abstinence pledge that may be temporarily repealed when the ring is taken off; and the ring as a symbol of a word, “abstinence,” that holds different meanings for different groups and individuals.<\/p>\n
I am not arguing that any of these themes suggests a trend; this study is neither quantitative nor comprehensive. However, the responses I have received from college-aged students around the country do reveal a sense that even among those who support abstinence, multiple and contested meanings abound.<\/p>\n
Having observed hundreds of kids herded into gyms for the extremely lengthy Silver Ring Thing show – the entire program can take over four hours – I was not shocked to learn that some parents may impose the purchase of the ring on reluctant children. “I know that there are students who are forced to go to the program, who are told by their parents they have to wear the ring. I think this is so parents don’t need to do anything annoying like PAY ATTENTION to their child,” wrote one girl. Another cited “friends receiving promise rings from their parents on their 13th birthday.”<\/p>\n
Even when parents don’t explicitly require it, the ring is a gesture to a judgmental audience. Naturally, some teens want to maintain a clean public image and their rings are worn as a display that may not correspond to their actual practices. “There are definitely people who will wear the ring for the image it provides. I know people who will wear the ring only to church related activities and not wear it at any other time,” wrote one boy. Another boy commented: “Sadly, not everyone who wears the ring is serious about it just like not everyone in church on Sunday morning is serious about it.”<\/p>\n
A young woman recalled, “I do think that they kind of scared the youth into wanting to purchase the ring and wear it. I’m pretty sure almost everyone purchased a ring at the event. Before it started, people in our youth group had said that they didn’t really want to purchase the ring because they thought it was a waste of money and that they had already chosen to remain abstinent. After the show, everyone in our youth group bought one including me. I think that some of the people were too young to understand exactly what the ring signified. They thought sex, not oral sex or other acts, was what the ring signified. I actually work with girls who are in the 10th grade now and went to this event in the 8th grade and none of them wear their rings and all have admitted to doing sexual acts.”<\/p>\n
One girl expressed concern that some people use the ring as a kind of shortcut: “A lot of the people I knew who got the ring claimed to be Christians, even though their lifestyles said otherwise. After they went through the program and received the ring, their lifestyles didn’t change, and some of them got worse. So they basically thought that wearing the ring made them moral, and they didn’t need to portray purity because they already had the symbol. Simply wearing a symbol does not make you what that symbol stands for, and I believe that’s what these people thought it would do for them.”<\/p>\n
For some, the display can be a way to conform, or they may be swept along in the excitement: “UNFORTUNATELY this happens a lot,” complained one girl. “Students get caught up in the whole drama and the skits and the fact that there are ‘tons of other teens’ putting on the ring, and they aren’t quite sure why they are doing it too. Then you find out that they are wearing it as a ‘piece of jewelry’ and not so much as the symbol of their decision to be abstinent.” And one boy revealed, “I will admit that being seen as a chaste and moral person is what you could call a ‘turn-on.'” However, he noted, “Often in the world of teenagers, people gain reputations and any sexual immorality would probably be revealed, leaving the symbol of the silver ring void even if that person continued to wear it.” Motivations for wearing or removing the ring range from the profound to the superficial: a girl noted that “Personally, I still wear the ring but not all of the time…not because I decided to become sexually active but because it’s not high quality and it was turning my finger colors.”<\/p>\n
Even if one has lost one’s chastity, the moral high ground can be regained through the power of the Silver Ring, according to the program’s ideology. “The ring is also a symbol of ‘renewed virginity’ and someone who has had sex can make or remake the commitment exactly as a virgin would make the commitment,” explains one girl. Another points out, “Just by simply wearing it does not mean that the person has removed all temptation from having sex.” That is, one can break one’s pledge and then renew it. “I have failed many times but the ring and infinitely more importantly my relationship with God and other Christians has helped me become a more pure man,” writes one young man. And another girl elaborates: “There are people all over America who break their promises. The only difference between the breakers are those who actually keep breaking the promise, as opposed to those who realize they’ve made a mistake and try to right it.”<\/p>\n
For some, the promise may be a contract that applies only<\/em> when the ring is on the finger. One girl observes, “There have been times in which people have removed the ring and suddenly ‘changed their mind’ until they put it back on.” A young man reflects: “I have taken my ring off before engaging in questionable activity as if that made some kind of difference… The times I have removed it were times where I fell to the temptation of pornography. Removing the ring was a way of me trying to remove myself from this covenant…An example would be for a married sailor to remove his wedding ring before going on liberty in a foreign port. Obviously his status as married has not changed but there is a lot of power in our symbols.” And another girl’s comment speaks to the awareness of symbols: “There are several people who ‘take off the ring to behave differently.’ But that is the EXACT POINT. They are aware that the ring stands for something and they are BREAKING that commitment. By taking off the ring, they feel somewhat ‘liberated’ to make other poor decisions that might not sit so well if there was a reminder of something else that they ‘believed in.’ It’s like a married man who takes off his ring to cheat on his wife. He is taking off the SYMBOL of that commitment so that he feels as though he is UNINHibiTED to make choices that might not be the ‘best for his marriage.'”<\/p>\nFinally, my respondents testify to a wide range of interpretations of the ring’s mandate, due to personal and cultural definitions of what it means to be abstinent in the first place. “I would say that the physical boundary crossed when you have absolutely passed the limit (that the ring signifies for me) is true intercourse,” says one girl, specifying that for her personally, “abstaining from sex means no vaginal or oral sexual contact at the least. I do know that this definition varies for people who agree to abstain from sex but everyone agrees that it is not having vaginal sexual contact until they are married, not engaged but married.” She remains vague as to what qualifies as “contact.” Another young woman is more explicit: “I cannot speak for everyone but it seems to me that oral sex is deemed acceptable by a lot of people I meet who wear the ring. I also consider oral sex acceptable as well. I am also well aware that the Bible verse says that is unacceptable but I choose to live this way on my own.”<\/p>\n
“Some people have different definitions of what sex is[. S]ome say oral is not sex or petting isn’t sex,” one young man remarks. “The worst definition I’ve ever heard was that it is not sex if it didn’t mean any thing or if they were now broke up. It’s really weird because people try to use different words for sex almost as if it makes it not sex.”<\/p>\n
Does the ring have power to strengthen moral resolve? Some teenagers appear to use it to this purpose. One girl wrote, “Personally, I refrain from having actual intercourse but proceed to do other sexual acts. I think that the ring has a different meaning to everyone even though the actual meaning is to refrain from all sexual acts before marriage. I have the ring but I don’t usually wear it unless I think that I might be extremely tempted.”<\/p>\n
For one boy, sexual “purity” means “not only abstinence from intercourse but other things including not looking at pornography, not dwelling in lust and keeping my relationships with girls from becoming a self-serving way to gratify sexual desires… something as innocent as a hug if done for the wrong motive could be crossing the line.” Another boy writes, “I can still say that I haven’t had physical sex yet but I’ll admit that I’ve slipped up a few times in the mental part of it. I get tempted very easily but I feel that I am forgiven no matter what although I will still remember what I’ve done.”<\/p>\n
One girl wrote to explain that among her friends, several wore different varieties of promise rings, in addition to holding diverse attitudes toward sex. “Many who put on the ring do not keep their promise,” she informed me. “Some choose to allow themselves a very loose definition of abstinence. I know several people in this category. The ‘loose definition’ does not include anal sex for any of these cases, though in one instance a friend has allowed herself to get into situations which she could have avoided that led in two instances to date rape. She kept her ring. Others draw the line at anal sex being too far, taking clothes off being too far, and some at the horizontal position being too far. I recently heard a speaker at a Christian retreat refer to his own experience in which he drew the line at French kissing based on strong temptation to ‘go all the way’ every time they French kissed.”<\/p>\n
With This Ring<\/strong><\/h3>\nThis thing, the silver ring, is a dazzling example of a polyvalent symbol. Even my limited, anecdotal study reveals a great variety of local and personal responses to a faith-based movement seeking to implement moral and character education on a national scale. I believe that by examining this phenomenon not only as a public performance of a symbolic rite but also in terms of vernacular religion, we can better understand the popularity and the implications of prevention efforts that use drama and symbolism to display and teach values.<\/p>\n
I have observed the intensity and ambiguity of the messages being conveyed through the Silver Ring Thing, but I have also documented discrepancies in the ways teenagers receive these messages, interpret them, and respond to them. These questions call for further exploration, as my present study reveals a range of vernacular conceptualizations of abstinence.<\/p>\n
When public school gymnasiums are packed with obedient throngs of students who fidget and yawn through a two- to four-hour spectacle of faith-based cheerleading for chastity, and at the end most of these students purchase a ring, something significant is transpiring. Primiano suggests that “spiritual traditions and a love for sacred materiality remain the cement of even a seemingly secular U.S. society.”18<\/u> Leigh Eric Schmidt’s Consumer Rites: The Buying and Selling of American Holidays includes a discussion of the feasts and rituals of the Christian church. Schmidt illustrates how “the familiar theological and liturgical ideals” fail to fully represent the complexity of vernacular experience: “In practice, the drawing of a sharp line around Sundays and holy days in order to insulate them from economic pursuits and to ensure their solemnity was invariably hard to achieve, and neat boundaries between the sacred and the profane were in the quotidian world of lived religion hard to come by.”19<\/u> Schmidt describes examples of the convergence of fair and religious festival, and perhaps it is natural that evangelism and material culture should be marketed to the public in the same physical and spiritual space.<\/p>\n
The moral entrepreneurs behind the Silver Ring Thing have created an inspired, innovative, participatory event to impart their values to the next generation. For their part, the teenagers leave the auditorium bearing material artifacts whose meaning must be individually manufactured: Each ring can be decoded, and re-coded, endlessly. And for the attentive adult community – concerned parents, educators, and activists – the enactment of the performance climaxes with the reassuring immediate transaction. Purity rings are distributed, and the Silver Ring Thing tour moves on to the next town, promising “the best sex ever!<\/em>” – but not before marriage.<\/p>\nFeature Image CC2. Some Rights Reserved. Photo by TommY Gunn Photography.<\/p>\n
\nNotes<\/h4>\n\n- <\/u> Melanie L. Toups and William R. Holmes, “Effectiveness of Abstinence-Based Sex Education Curricula: A Review,” Counseling and Values 46 (2002), 240.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> John S. Santelli, “Abstinence-Only Education: Politics, Science, and Ethics,” Social Research 73 no. 3 (2006), 835-58; see also Bill Taverner, “Reclaiming ‘Abstinence’ in Comprehensive Sex Education,” Contemporary Sexuality 41 no. 4 (2007), 9-14.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Peter S. Bearman and Hannah Bruckner, “Promising the Future: Virginity Pledges and First Intercourse,” American Journal of Sociology 106 (2001), 859-912; see also Bearman and Bruckner, “After the Promise: The STD Consequences of Adolescent Virginity Pledges,” Journal of Adolescent Health 36 (2005), 271-78.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Linda Sather and Kelly Zinn, “Effects of Abstinence-Only Education on Adolescent Attitudes and Values Concerning Premarital Sexual Intercourse,”Family Community Health 25 no. 2 (2002), 1-15; see also Janice Hopkins Tanne, “Abstinence Education Has No Effect on U.S. Teenagers’ Sexual Activity,” British Medical Journal 334 no. 7599 (2007), 867.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Mark D. Regnerus, Forbidden Fruit: Sex and Religion in the Lives of American Teenagers (New York: Oxford University Press, 2007), 117, 196-98.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Arnold van Gennep, The Rites of Passage<\/em> (reprint, London: Routledge and Kegan Paul, 1960).<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Stephen Cox, “Only in America: Review of Aimee Semple McPherson: Everybody’s Sister, <\/em>by Edith L. Blumhofer,” Cross Currents <\/em>45 no. 4 (1996), 543-47.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Van Gennep, The Rites of Passage, <\/em>12.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Diane E. Goldstein, “The Secularization of Religious Ethnography and Narrative Competence in a Discourse of Faith.,” Western Folklore <\/em>54 no. 1 (1995), 23-36.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Montana Miller, “‘Every 15 Minutes Someone Dies’: How People Play in a Staged Drunk Driving Tragedy” (PhD diss., University of California at Los Angeles, 2003).<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Don Yoder, “Toward a Definition of Folk Religion,” Western Folklore <\/em>33 no. 1 (1974), 2-15.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Leonard Norman Primiano, “Vernacular Religion and the Search for Method in Religious Folklife,” Western Folklore <\/em>54 (1995), 37-56.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Leonard Norman Primiano, “Angels and Americans: Review of Angels from the Vatican, <\/em>exhibition,” America <\/em>179 no. 10 (1998), 15-18; see also Leonard Norman Primiano,“<\/em>What is Vernacular Catholicism? The ‘Dignity’ Example,” Acta Ethnographica Hungarica <\/em>46 no. 1-2 (2001), 51-8; and Robert Glenn Howard, “Sustainability and Narrative Plasticity in Online Apocalyptic Discourse After September 11, 2001,” Journal of Media and Religion <\/em>5 no. 1 (2006), 25-47.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Robert Orsi, Between Heaven and Earth: The Religious Worlds People Make and the Scholars Who Study Them <\/em>(Princeton: Princeton University Press, 2004); see also David Hall, Lived Religion in America <\/em>(Princeton: Princeton University Press, 1997); and Laurie F. Maffly-Kipp, Leigh Eric Schmidt, and Mark Valeri, eds., Practicing Protestants: Histories of Christian Life in America, 1630-1965<\/em> (Baltimore: The Johns Hopkins University Press, 2006).<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Ganamath Obeyesekere, Medusa’s Hair: An Essay on Personal Symbols and Religious Experience <\/em>(Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1981).<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Ganamath Obeyesekere, Medusa’s Hair: An Essay on Personal Symbols and Religious Experience <\/em>(Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1981), 33.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Leonard Norman Primiano, “Angels and Americans: Review of Angels from the Vatican, <\/em>exhibition,” America <\/em>179 no. 10 (1998), 17.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Leonard Norman Primiano, “Angels and Americans: Review of Angels from the Vatican, <\/em>exhibition,” America <\/em>179 no. 10 (1998), 17.<\/li>\n
- <\/u> Leigh Eric Schmidt, Consumer Rites: The Buying and Selling of American Holidays <\/em>(Princeton: Princeton University Press, 1995), 19.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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